Identity

On that journey to motherhood, from beginning pregnancy stage to the baby being born, you slowly lose your identity...majority of the time it’s to no fault of your own. People begin to ask less and less about you but more about the baby/child. You go from being "(insert name here)" to "Where's (insert baby name)?” I just wanted to scream, "HELLO...MY NAME IS PAM....ITS ME!!...MY NAME HASN'T CHANGED!!!" It’s a huge trend when you become married as well...you go to being "Oh you're (husband's name)'s wife?"...excuse me...are you serious?

Well those days are over for me, I refuse to get caught up losing my identity & being reduced down to Stephan's wife or Deuce & Sarai's mommy. I am more than a mother, sister, daughter, and wife. I have a distinct identity and I think I'm pretty awesome! Like many women, I am a woman of many hats and I'm talented at many things. I think people really forget that especially when you make the decision to be a SAHM (stay at home mom). Just because I chose to not work outside of home doesn't mean I don't have my own passions & dreams that I’m working towards. Furthermore it definitely doesn’t mean I just sit at home (but that’s another post in itself…) 

I'm sure some women are more than content with just being "So & So's Wife" but not me. I love my husband to death! Definitely extremely proud to be his Mrs. but its more to life than just that. I have big dreams, passions, and desires of my own outside of my husband and 2 kids. I hope that one day these passions go from being dreams to those of realities that benefit the people I love the most. 

In then end I understand that majority of people mean no harm but it can be quite annoying. Perhaps self-consciously I do it to myself as well...Maybe when my visions manifest people will change; perhaps they won’t….

But let me introduce myself nonetheless:

My name is Pamela…not just Stephan’s wife…not just Deuce & Sarai’s awesome mommy…yes those things encompass me but I’m simply Pamela or Pam for short….in addition to being Pam, I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, relative, and friend…I have a small graphic design business hoping to launch a t-shirt line. I am passionate about our teen moms, homelessness, and other social issues. I love God and desire His will for my life. I am a graduate of Trinity Christian College with a bachelor’s in Business Communication. But if you remember none of that, just take away my name is Pamela or Pam for short….

PJG